WORDS OF WISDOM: TAKE A CHANCE
It’s so unfortunate that there is a cycle of broken hearts and bruised egos due to those who choose to constantly ‘play the game‘. Honesty is something that is lost for the majority of the younger generation and to some extent, my current generation. I’ve made a conscious decision to not play the game (although tempted, it’s definitely not for me) and just be upfront and honest. I think if everyone is just straightforward with people and honest with how they feel, then there wouldn’t be this bullshit cycle of broken hearts, bruised egos and the fear of being hurt. After all, it only takes one brave individual to break a cycle.
Guys – if a girl isn’t into you, please, don’t be a little bitch about it and run crying to your momma, yelling and screaming that a girl doesn’t like you. Man the fuck up, grow some fucking balls and accept that not EVERY GIRL thinks you’re hot shit. Not EVERY GIRL thinks you spit hot fire. You might not even spit at all. Only small brained little boys throw tantrums and would cuss a girl out just cuz she’s not into you. (To the real men out, there help me bring back what it means to be a man. A gentleman. Too many little boys running around with their dicks in their hands these days).
Girls – seriously, stop leading guys on and just tell a guy you’re not into him and stop using guys as your ego boost. Getting an ‘ego boost‘ from a guy you ‘obviously‘ know is ‘out of your league‘ is like saying Gayweather is the ‘greatest’ boxer who ever lived because he only fights those he knows he can beat. (Or hug. Hug them till they get tired). That doesn’t count as an ego boost. An ego boost is someone who is OUT OF YOUR LEAGUE and yet is interested in you for some odd reason. If Miranda Kerr (pictured right) was interested in me, then that would be an ego boost (and infinite high fives from everyone, ever). That’s why it’s called a boost, it increases your ego, not ego in check. Stop playing in the shallow end of the pool keeping your egos in check and jump in the deep end once in a while. Take a chance. Go for a guy who looks like David Beckham. Why not? It could happen. You never know.
To BOTH – stop lowering your standards just because you can’t land a date. Just because there is quantity doesn’t mean you have to diminish the quality. If you want a girl/guy who is college educated, keep searching. If you want to be with someone who is family oriented, don’t settle. However, don’t expect to find something you yourself don’t have. If you don’t have a degree, what makes you think a guy/girl who has a Master’s degree would be interested in you? I don’t want to sound mean but that’s the truth. Don’t be superficial. Please. Don’t dumb yourself down just because you are desperate to go for the first person you land a conversation with. Don’t lower your standards because you think you are getting old and need to settle down. Don’t lower your standards because you think ‘it’s better to be in a relationship than not at all’. There will never be a shortage of girls/guys. There are beautiful girls, all over the world. Same with guys. Just because you don’t find anyone right now doesn’t mean you never will.
Lastly – take a fucking chance. We are all stuck in this self defeatist mentality where ‘I don’t want to be the first one to ask him/her out because I don’t want to be rejected‘ or ‘What if she/he says no? Then I’ll be embarrassed’. Well, news flash jackass, that’s called life why don’t you try living it for once? You think life is full of ‘YES‘? There is no ‘yes‘ without a ‘no‘. There is no ‘happiness‘ without ‘sadness‘. How are you going to know if you never try? You could be missing out on some of the best years of your life spending it with that special person, but won’t know all because you chose to not be the first one to ask them out. Because you chose not to respond to a message. Because you chose not to be honest with how you feel. Because you didn’t want to take a chance. The friendzone only exists for those too scared to let the other person know they want more. Stop waiting for things to happen and make them happen. If you find a guy/girl you are interested in, message them. Talk to them. Ask to meet up in person. Ask them out. Who cares who does what first. If both of you are sitting there waiting with thumbs up your asses waiting to see who’ll make the first move, then you’ve already lost. If it doesn’t work, it doesn’t work, and at least you’d know instead of wondering what could have been. Because if you don’t try, if you don’t take a chance, you’ll never know if that one girl/guy who messaged you but never got around to messaging them back could have been the one. Stop missing opportunities and take a chance, that is what life is all about. Afterall, “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take“. Wayne Gretzky bitch. Booya. (drops mic)
– (Dammit I was trying to be serious here. I didn’t mean those shots… nvm)